Thursday, May 6, 2010

You asked we answered

A long long time ago in a world far away we talked of doing a Q & A post and for you to send in any questions you may have. Finally we are here to answer, and if you have more questions let us know.

Q-The most asked question is how did Brandon and I meet.

This could be a blog post or two itself and I plan on doing so in August. So put shortly we met when we were 14 at a high school football game. We talked a little and one of us always had a significant other. Then in 2003 my cousin who just happens to be a best friend of Brandon's was married and we reconnected there and haven't missed a beat since.

Q-Which of the kids' personalities are the most like AJ; which are like Brandon?

Madison is definitely me (AJ) 125%, picky eater, is very cautious of germs, and does not like to be dirty. Elizabeth is Brandon to a T, she gets this grin and I see trouble in it just as I see in Brandon. She is his mini me which scares us so much! Logan is both, he is so happy like me and can be very stubborn and both Brandon and myself are. He is a determined little man just like Brandon.

Q-How often do you get together with the other Quad parents in the DFW area?

Not as often as we would like. If we all lived closer together this may be different, however with numerous children and busy lives as it is we talk more often than we see each other. I miss them all and wish I could see everyone at least once a week.

Q-What is the kids' happiest/funnest time in the day? i.e. morning? after lunch? never?

Happiest time of the day for all of them is usually the morning right after breakfast, they have so much energy and are just itching to get on the move. The funnest time of day is when Brandon gets home from work, the kids go to the gate in the kitchen when Blue barks because they know Daddy is home and he will have more energy than Mommy at that time.

Q-Does raising multiples feel surreal to you now? Was it ever?

It is, I love it and would not change it for anything in the world. We don't know any different and this is our normal. At first we couldn't believe it and I think even though we saw them on ultrasound every week it was not "real" until they were here even though we could not hold them.

Q-Besides your helpers, what got you through the early days of no sleep, frequent feedings/changings, etc.?

Honestly caffeine once I was done pumping. We were very sleep deprived, we did not have helpers other than our Moms and my Nana who came down at different times to relieve each other. We would be delusional at the 3am feedings and just laugh for no reason or come up with funny and sometimes not so nice nicknames for the kids, that is how Logan became Lougee. Brandon helped a lot even though he had to get up early to work. I have a schedule and routine that we stuck to no matter what at that time and I did not stray from it ever.

Q-I don't know if this is somewhere in your blog or not, but how did you meet? propose?

This was kind of answered in the first questions. Brandon proposed on the day we moved in to our first house. I came home from work and was so mad he was not coming out to help me carry my car load in. Once in the door I was confused and eventually got it :0).

Q-I suspect they will be Spartan fans right?

This is a big NO, they will be raised watching Michigan. However, we do cheer for MSU when they are not playing MI and I do cheer for Penn State ahead of MSU. Sorry, and green spartan gear in this house is for burp cloths or rags.

Q-How do you do it all?

Plain and simple we have to. It does not seem like extra work for the most part as I have said it is normal for us and we do not know any different. I am OCD about many things and have to get things done otherwise I don't sleep.

Q-Is it getting easier as the babies get older?

Heck no, it is harder in all honesty. The girls are into things if they are awake and are always keeping us on our toes. Logan is work, but in a good way, he wants to do more and is motivated by his sisters so I am always working with him as long as he is awake.

Q-Do you like being a SAHM?

I love it and it was always my dream to be a Mom and stay at home with our children. I had planned on working until we had our second child. It can be stressful but there is so much I get to see every day that Brandon doesn't. I rarely miss anything new and when I do I am crushed. I personally believe I have the best job there is.

So this last question is not a question at all but a comment we received on a prior post regarding March for Dimes and the March for Babies walk we participated in. We normally ignore comments that frustrate us or are mean however I feel I need to respond to this. I don't know if this encourages people or makes them happy that they got to us.

I think the March of dimes is a great thing for preemies but there would be less preemies if doctors would do less fertility treatments. Multiples can be controlled and I believe that there are too many multiples especially families who ask for help from neighbours. If you have those children then raise them yourself.

A response from a fellow multiple mom is below:
Well anon, you can be pissed at the parents that couldn't have kids and went to fertility treatments all day long, BUT it's not the preemies fault. I'm pretty sure no one is asking you to raise them or even pay for them. It's donations for preemie research and the fight against premature birth. Not all preemies are born due to multiple pregnancies. If you don't like it, don't donate, but keep your opinions to yourself!!

My response:
I could not put it better myself and that is why I used my amazing friends comment. We had no other choice to have our own children, without fertility treatments our MIRACLES would not be here. I have wanted to be a Mom since I can remember and when my dream of that was not happening I cannot explain the pain and emotions I had and still have today.

We were not asking for anything for us but for research so hopefully one day any baby born premature may not have to go through was past babies have such as ours. Without the research from March of Dimes who knows how or where our children would be today.

Thank you for all the great questions, if there are anymore out there let us know and we will try to do this again.

Sending out love to you all!



Stephanie said...

Yeah! That was fun! I always love getting to know more about my blog friends!
Stupid anon comments..keep your ugly comments out of here! We are all friends and like to support eachother! If you dont like what we talk about or support, DONT visit our blogs!
(stepping off of soap box!)
I have to admit I'm not a big fan of posts with no pictures! haha

Amy-Jo said...

Stephanie, I promise the next post with have pictures :).

Jenni said...

I love your blog!! Thank you for sharing all this personal information.

I hate anonymous comments. WHat a very ignorant thing that was said.

You have a beautiful family that God wanted you to have.

Samantha said...

I'm sorry that people feel they have a right to complain about your family and other multiple families. I love reading your blog and love learn about the everyday things that go on in your house.

Bret and Heather said...

well said my love :]

Anonymous said...

DITTO!!!! Its a shame some people are so uneducated and judgemental.
LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And wouldnt it be great if we could see eachother every week!

Sarah T said...

People are ignorant. And this comes from a mom who did fertility treatments, had ONE baby and he was still 3 weeks early! Not officially a preemie but a couple days earlier and he could easily have been in the NICU. Like my mom says "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!"

You're a great mommy and those babies are lucky to have you!

mom2one said...

People that make comments like that have obivously never had infertilty probelms and do not understand. I struggled with infertilty with 4 yrs and finally got one miracle child.

Ashley said...

I can not believe that anonymous poster!!! I don't even have any kids and that frustrates the heck out of me!!! How could she be soo insensitive?!?!? She needs to wake up to the reality that she could one day have a preemie baby or need fertility treatments and wouldn't she LOVE to eat her words!!! I am soo sorry that she said this! ALL babies are miracles and soo special!! You are a wonderful mother to your miracles!! It was great to meet you guys at the wonderful and soo beneficial to soo many MARCH FOR BABIES walk :-))


Emily Guest said...

Amy Jo... both of my girls were born premature, rylie was 6 weeks early and grace was 5 weeks early, and i didn't do fertility treatments, i totally agree with your friend...

TwinsanityMom said...

Happy Mother's Day!

Mountain Girl said...

Hope you had a Happy Mother's Day!