Monday, November 24, 2008

No Words

This is by far the hardest post I have had to make since starting on this journey, and I struggle to find the right things to say. We have prepared for ups and downs, hard times and fun times, but today is not a day you can prepare for. We had our weekly sono, which we thought was just a routine visit to check on the babies and measure the cervix in hopes of going home. What they found instead is that Cody no longer has a heart beat. The doctors are not 100% sure what caused this sudden change but believe it was due to some changes in how the blood and other nutrients were being sent between the identical boys. At this point we need a miracle for Logan to hang on as he is already showing signs of heart failure, somewhat common when something happens to one of an identical pair. Please pray for our babies and for Amy-Jo, the coming weeks will be difficult and we need all the help we can get. And please help us morn the loss of our son, Cody Richard Sather.

PS - We did come home today just in case anyone is looking for us.

Cody Richard Sather

36 comments:

Tiffany said...

your family will be in my prayers

a blog follower..
from North Richland Hills, TX

Anonymous said...

praying for you and your family.

Anonymous said...

also praying for you and the babies.

Linda (Kami's Mom in Phoenix)

Tracie said...

1I am so sorry to hear this. I know personally how much the loss of a child hurts. May God give you comfort and peace in this time of pain. You ALL will be in our prayers.

Robin said...

May God wrap His arms around you in your time of grief and give you the strength you need for your other babies. I'll be praying for you.

JanetGephart said...

We will have you in our thoughts and prayers during these difficult times




a blog follower from Richmond, VA

The Gerwer Babies said...

I love you guys and am thinking of you ALL. We will continue to pray for you guys and strength.

Whitney said...

I am so sorry for your loss. We will be praying for your family and those precious babies.

Jenna said...

We are so sorry that you are going through this. Nothing we can say will make the hurt go away, but your family is in our prayers!

The Carlsons said...

we are praying for you and your family! we pray for God's miraculous and healing hand to protect the other babies and Amy-Jo. we pray for you as you grieve the loss of your precious son, Cody.

-quad mom of GGGG and a 4yo boy

Sabrina said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I experienced a miscarriage just before we had Drew and I know that there are no words that I could say to make this any less difficult for you. You, your husband and those little miracles are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope all will be well.

Sabrina

Misty said...

Amy Jo & Brandon,
I am praying for you and I am truly sorry for your loss. My heart truly aches for you. THe joy you two have had about being parents and even the joy of knowing that it was quads was so nice to see. Beau and I will say many prayers for you! Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I put you on the prayer chain for PAMOM also.
Love,
Misty
MOM to gggg quads

Mountain Girl said...

I am so sad to hear that your little Cody Richard went to heaven. I have a dear little friend named Cody Richard. I pray that God will give you comfort and safety for the rest of the babies.

Anonymous said...

De-lurking to say I am so, so sorry and that I am praying for you. Especially for sweet Cody and for Logan to fight.

Jutta, Germany said...

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.


A blog follower from Solingen, Germany - former Coconut Creek, FL resident

jag said...

I am so sorry for the loss of Cody. I can't imagine what you must be going through. Your family is in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry! You all are in my thoughts and prayers!! If there is anything I can do please let me know. -----Casey Gerwer knows how to get in contact with me. Jennifer (Dr. Lee's old nurse)

Anonymous said...

My thoughts and prays are with you! Jennifer Eltringham (Simek)

minshewmom said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers as you try to deal with the loss of Cody, yet still be strong for the other 3 babies. Praying for in Arkansas!

Stephanie said...

I ma so sorry for your loss. You will all continue in my prayers. Please know that so many are praying for you and your babies.

Jen said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. You will all be in my thoughts.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending many prayers your way.

Jessica Marlow said...

Amy-Joy and Brandon--I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't begin to imagine the pain and heartache that you are experiencing. I will keep you and the little ones in my thoughts and prayers. If you need anything, let me know.

damien said...

im so sorry for your loss , your in my thoughts and prays

Joanne said...

Oh Amy & Brandon what can we say. I am on the phone right now with Christine and we are both so sad for you. She says she will call you later-she's at work.She wishes she was right there with you. We love you and are praying so so hard for you and Brandon, Logan, Elizabeth and Madison. So glad to hear your parents are there with you. God bless you.Love and prayers. Joanne

Anonymous said...

Amy Jo and Brandon I will be praying very hard for you and all the babies.
Love Heidi

Amanda Shaul said...

Prayers going up. May God wrap his arms around you and comfort you.

Jenica said...

We are so sorry for the loss of one of the babies. We are praying for the for you all and the rest to pull through.

Moni Graf said...

Dear Sathers Family,
You're right....there are NO words for the loss you've experienced. My whole heart aches for you. Please know you have many, many prayers coming to you from all over the world as you try to cope and grieve.

Love from KS,
Moni and the Graf Quads

Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry! Am paying for both of you and your precious babies

Anonymous said...

deep sympathy to you and the rest of your family.
Hope the rest of the pregnancy goes more smoothly.

Jennifer said...

There really is no words to say at a time like this. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. God bless!

Anonymous said...

Hi Amy Jo and Brandon,

I have not posted yet, but have been watching weekly for updates. Thank you for sharing all of the news with us, good and bad, as we want to see how you and the babies are progressing.

During this difficult time please know that there are many friends and family praying daily for you, and will do anything we can to help.

Love,
Leslie Ball, one of many former WDWCP roomies

Becca said...

Amy Jo and Brandon,
I am praying for you guys and your family. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with you now and always.

Crystal said...

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Crystal Corkhill

Anonymous said...

Hi Amy-Jo and Brandon,
May God put all of you in his hands and hold you and let you get through this difficult time. Let Him keep those babies safe and A.J. Brandon keep the faith and know we are all praying for those babies and both of you. Give our Amy-Jo and big hug for us.
We love you all.
Nana & Papa